How you respond to and discipline your children greatly affects how they grow and what they will become. A child’s development process is influenced by all the stimuli he comes into contact with at an early age, both with individuals and with his environment. Since parents normally have fixed presence in a child’s life at an early age, they tend to have the most significant impact on whether the development takes place in positive or negative direction. Your parenting style will build following social and cognitive attributes in your child’s personality. Research suggests that these attributes carry over into adult behaviour.
· Lacks Creativity and rebellious
Authoritarian parenting is characterized by adherence to rules, a dominating style, and a great deal of control. The authoritarian parents are punitive.
Children of authoritarian parents are at a higher risk of low self- esteem because their opinions aren’t valued.
They may also become hostile or aggressive in nature. Rather than think about how to do things better in the future or focusing on solution, they often focus on the anger they feel toward their parents. Since authoritarian parents are strict, their children might grow to become good liars in future in an effort to avoid punishment. Their creativity is killed by rigid rules and they tend to become rebellious in nature because of the lack of freedom.
· Low self-esteem and sad
Permissive parents have very few demands to make of their children. These parents rarely discipline their children because they have relatively low expectations of maturity. Parents who tend to be permissive are non-confrontational in nature hence children rarely learn how to stand up for themselves.
Permissive parenting impacts a child’s life in such an intense way that they could end up with being short tempered and lack of emotional empathy. These children won’t be able to express and communicate their mind as a result their emotions will boil up inside and they’ll avoid serious confrontation on any topic in life.
Children raised in such an environment may find it difficult to follow rules and deal with structured environments. They may get problematic in dealing with authority figures as they experience difficulty in following rules. They could have a very low frustration tolerance level and find it extremely difficult to accept rejection in any dimension.
· High self-esteem but decreased maturity
Indulgent parenting is characterized by attentive and aware parents, who provide a great deal of warmth and interaction with their children, but few rules and constraints. These parents seem more like friends than parents.
In this case there is an extensive amount of parent-child communication, but very low levels of maturity is seen in such children. Children raised by indulgent parents have higher self-esteem and lower levels of depression, which aids in positive social development but decreased maturity and lack of independence is seen.
This parenting style most of the times lead to higher levels of creativity in children, but there is little self-control.
This parenting style creates one-sided interpersonal relationships with kids, where the adult child of the indulgent parent is more willing to take than give.
· Low self-esteem and unhappy
Neglectful parenting is when parents simply don’t spend time with their children and are happy to let the TV and video games do the babysitting in early childhood. Children of neglectful parents often have trouble following rules, because there has never been any rule neither adherence to any rule during their upbringing.
Children with uninvolved parents are likely to struggle with self-esteem issues, depression and lack of self-discipline. They tend to perform poorly in school in academics and other activities. They also exhibit mood swings, behavioural problems and rank low in happiness.
· Mature and happy leaders
Authoritative parenting is the bench mark for parenting. Authoritative parents encourage their children to be independent, but also set limits and boundaries with reasons and logics. Rational discipline is applied, but in a supportive, non-punitive and aware way.
Children raised with authoritative discipline tend to be happy and successful. They’re more likely to be good at making decisions, mature and evaluating safety risks on their own. They tend to become good leaders and compatible partners with goof health.
Children who were brought up in a home with an authoritative parent tend to have higher self-esteem, self-discipline, maturity, decision making skills and are more self-reliant than those raised by a permissive parent.
Due to the reasonable expectations, logical communication and warm nature of an authoritative parent, children will often be natural born leaders.
There’s no right way to raise a child, but if you can take time to observe, learn and adapt to your child’s needs, then you’ll be well equipped and on your way to raising a healthy, happy, well-rounded child.